Formal-charge and electronegativity rules are introductory ranking heuristics, not quantitative resonance-weight measurements. In SCN⁻, S=C=N has formal charges (0,0,−1), while S–C≡N has (−1,0,0). The stated electronegativity tiebreaker selects the first because N is more electronegative than S; this alone does not establish the actual weights of the contributors. A third valid octet drawing S≡C–N has (+1,0,−2), placing +1 on sulfur, not nitrogen. The real ion is a resonance hybrid.
To compare N₂O contributors, keep N–N–O connectivity and use sixteen valence electrons in each. The triple/single form has terminal N = 0, central N = +1, O = −1. The double/double form has terminal N = −1, central N = +1, O = 0. Both satisfy octets and have equal charge magnitudes; placing the negative formal charge on O favors the first under the electronegativity criterion. Reversing the connectivity to N–O–N is not merely another resonance contributor.